While our little one sleeps, I get to listen to my niece and nephew fight. That's somewhat normal in today's world... Then, their dad (my brother) comes home. What's he do? Comes home, yells at them, and says, "Pack your s***, you're going to your mom's and I'm moving to the homeless shelter!" Then proceeds to yell at our mother about how he has to live in the basement when Molly and I could easily fit with the baby down there (ugh, mildew and mold with a baby, anyone?). Then yells about how he doesn't want to live anymore and how he needs to shoot himself. I'm tempted to offer him my rifle, but he would probably go on a frenzy on everyone else. This is the world (house) we live in. It's not just about money. It's about emotional stability. Unfortunately, money would help to secure that.
We live in my parents' house. Where the plumbing is corroding (a simple $1,200 fix that should be no problem for a couple that makes $60,000/yr), there's a sinkhole in the back yard (free fix - they have yet to get ahold of their contact, and it's been over six months), and the relatives are absolutely certifiable!
I don't know what to do or how to do it. The only thing I can think of is going to college (been my goal for a while now), but that will only make things harder...
My wife's mother is most likely moving into a place (out of her mother in-law's) that is 50 miles away. That would equal a 100 mile commute each workday for my wife. In one day. My wife's parents work and go to school here in town, as well as her sister. But her youngest sister goes to school in the town that is 50 miles away. So, three people are accommodating for one. Makes sense, eh? My wife and I have offered to pitch in for rent if they were to move here. The way they see it, however, is that since rent is so cheap out there, it makes up for having to drive so far. But it does not. They just don't keep track of their finances, so they've no idea.
Nerve-racking to say the least! Stuck between insanity and too far away.
It's Not Always About Money
November 15th, 2011 at 12:31 am
November 15th, 2011 at 01:16 am 1321319773
As for college, if you can swing it, go, go, go! Research indicates that most folks who go on and finish college, through their lives, make more money. Just get a degree in something that is employable.
Hope things calm down and look up for all in your family.
November 15th, 2011 at 01:25 am 1321320325
If you don't qualify...than traveling that distance would only be worth it to me for the very short term (a year or less).
You might look around on craigslist or talk to friends to see if anyone might have a room or dry basement to rent out.
November 15th, 2011 at 02:03 am 1321322590
It was a lot of work, but less than buying a house or than paying first, last and deposit on an apartment.
November 15th, 2011 at 02:53 am 1321325590
Commuting would cost us over $200/mo. We would also then not be able to donate plasma anymore, taking a $200/mo hit. Without plasma, we would be living at a $95% debt:income ratio. No room for commuting. Also would make it impossible to go to college.
I'd be going to college for nursing. Obtaining a masters after getting five years in the field as well. It's a matter now of not having people to watch the litte one if I am at school and the wife is at work.
November 15th, 2011 at 03:47 am 1321328871
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November 15th, 2011 at 02:00 pm 1321365648
Here's a link.
November 15th, 2011 at 04:53 pm 1321376038
@LuckyRobin - I was told by a student at the school I will be attending, that there is childcare available. However, that is most definitely a last route sort of deal. I have never seen a child care service that actually worked. One adult to five children? No way... Even our church's nursery is bogus and we don't let our little girl in there either. We also had plans of home schooling her for elementary, but the whole recent goings-on may get in the way of that...
November 15th, 2011 at 04:57 pm 1321376238
"WAITING LIST
Due to the large demand for rental assistance in the community and a limited amount of funding and federal budget cuts, the Boise City/Ada County wait list closed effective Friday, April 29, 2011 at 4:30 pm.
THE BOISE CITY/ADA COUNTY HOUSING AUTHORITY IS NOT ACCEPTING APPLICATIONS FOR THE SECTION 8 HOUSING CHOICE VOUCHER PROGRAM AT THIS TIME."
From here: http://www.bcacha.org/Rental_Assistance/Section_8/section_8.html
November 15th, 2011 at 09:08 pm 1321391300
November 15th, 2011 at 10:19 pm 1321395547
We are speaking with a friend of ours that may be able to help. I figure, she can let us know what days she is available, and I can sign up for classes on that day. I don't know how far in advance I have to sign up for classes, but I don't think it's that far.